Debunking Sex Myths
By: Nneka Ewulonu
Sex education is unfortunately far from complete or accurate within the United States. It is common to see even adults confused about sex and genitalia. There is no guide or “how-to” book to help you navigate through sex, but luckily the internet is full of sources that offer some guidance. Before you can receive accurate sex education, you need to unlearn the wide array of misinformation surrounding the topic.
Myth: The first time you have sex, it will hurt because your hymen is breaking.
Fact: In reality, the hymen does not exist- at least not in the way it’s referenced or talked about. The hymen is a layer of skin surrounding the vaginal opening. If it were to cover the entirety of the vagina, one would not be able to menstruate. The hymen, like the vagina, will stretch when aroused and does not need to be “broken”. Sex should never be painful, and you should not bleed from sex. If you do experience pain or bleeding during sex, you should see a doctor to make sure nothing there are no injuries or underlying health concerns.
Myth: The vagina will become loose if you have too much sex.
Fact: When you stretch out a rubber band and let go, does it return to its original shape? The vagina is similar to this; it can stretch to accommodate whatever comes its way and will return to its normal size and shape afterwards. The only thing that can truly “loosen” a vagina is giving birth several times. The vagina will slowly lose its elasticity the more times one gives birth.
Myth: The morning after pill causes an abortion.
Fact: The morning after pill is essentially a birth control pill packed with more hormones. The pill will delay the ovary’s release of an egg for several days. Sperm never has the opportunity to fertilize the egg, so there is nothing to abort. There is an abortion pill, but that is completely separate from the morning after pill.
Myth: Women can’t orgasm.
Fact: For some reason, the female orgasm shrouded in mystery and certain aspects of it are still not entirely understood. What we do know is that yes, the female orgasm exists, but it just presents differently from a male orgasm. The vagina and clitoris tend to require much more stimulation than the penis in order to achieve orgasm; most people with vaginas cannot orgasm from vaginal penetration alone. The actual physiological response of an orgasm is essentially the same whether you have a vagina or a penis. All thetension in your muscles and nerves that have built up are involuntarily released, causing muscles to spasm, your heart rate to increase, etc. Whether or not you ejaculate semen is a factor of your genitalia, but even vagina’s can ejaculate. Scientists aren’t sure exactly what female ejaculate is, or even where it comes from, but rest assured: it’s not pee.